This is what Tom Cruise said about becoming a dad:
I’ll never forget the moment I became a dad. It’s hard to describe – that level of responsibility, the desire to give such joy. The clarity: nothing is more important than this.
I can’t say that I am a fan of the cultish Mr Cruise but I totally relate to his parental epiphany.
RESPONSIBILITY. JOY. CLARITY.
Clarity is up for debate as I know that my brain diverted to what I call ‘mommy mush’ – for a good while it was hard for me to think. But I was (and still am) certainly crystal clear in the belief that nothing is more important than raising my daughter. Which does not mean that my darling husband has taken a back seat – for my daughter to be happy and healthy my marriage needs to be awesome. And it is. So husband is still numero uno.
The responsibility of another life can be overwhelming, even crushing, at times. Gone are the days when only I mattered. Sometimes I selfishly wish that life was still all about me. But then I give myself a mental slap and look at the smile on my Amelia’s little chubby face and my heart simply dissolves. Responsibility is tough but joy compensates. The desire to bring my daughter oodles of joy, as well as the oodles of joy that she brings to my life, make the sacrifice of a fancy free live totally worth it.
The best things happen when something is laid down, a sacrifice is made, in order to receive life’s blessings.